Last week I had the pleasure of hosting The Art of Being You with author and fellow life coach Donnalynn Civello! What a powerful experience to motivate our audience to learn, accept, and love who they are! If you missed the workshop here are 5 steps to learning the art of being you developed by Donnalynn and myself.
1. KNOW WHO YOU ARE
Finding yourself: It is a lifelong journey of listening to yourself. Who you are evolves slowly; it doesn't happen overnight. It is a process of listening to what you love and what makes you happy.
Fake it till you make it: What you say about yourself matters. It foretells what will become true for yourself.
Know your own equation: We all have a personal equation of strengths and weaknesses and in order to effectively navigate through life, it is vital for you to know each of them.
2. ACCEPT WHO YOU ARE
Know what makes you different: People who fit in never get seen, they get lost in the crowd. It is never about fitting in, but is is about BEING YOU.
What you buy into is yours: Your thoughts about yourself define who you are. If you adopt others’ thoughts, you become a reflection of who they think you are, not who you really are.
Learn to stay in your own lane: Once you know who you are, then it's time to take that road and BE that person.
3. LOVE WHO YOU ARE
When you love, you win: When you love yourself, you take care of yourself and you give yourself what you need to be happy. In turn, this affects your next experience.
Turn off the faucet before it runs dry: When you love yourself, you prioritize yourself. It is about self-love, not selfishness.
Mirror, mirror on the wall: How others love and treat you is just a reflection of how you treat and love yourself.
4. KNOW WHAT YOU NEED
Meet me at the line or you cannot play with me: Always know what your boundaries are or you will find that they will always be crossed.
Accepting crumbs will never give you the full loaf of bread: You get what you accept and if you are contented with crumbs alone, why would anyone give you any more than that?
Learn how to say no before saying yes: You betray yourself every time you say yes when you actually mean no.
5. LET GO OF WHAT YOU DON'T NEED
Choose what you want: You do not always get what you want, you get what you choose. Believe it or not, it is not always the same thing!
You have to lose to win: Holding onto what makes you unhappy, keeps you unhappy. Try to let go of any negativity that surrounds you.
When a relationship ends, learn from it: Every relationship provides you with a learning experience with the opportunity to learn and grow.